Do you have any suggestions on how to become a better person?
Hmm... that's a good question. I mean, I think that's one of the big mysteries of life right? Right up there with why are we here and what are we ultimately supposed to do?
I think we're supposed to all be the best possible people we can be, both to ourselves and also to others. How best to do this, though, well... that's the question isn't it?
I'm a really big believer in the simple yet effective, "Treat others how you want to be treated." Martin Luther King had it right as well. What with not judging people by something like the color of their skin but by the content of their character.
But the real question is how do you treat people who treat you poorly? How do you treat people who are just huge dicks to anything and everyone around them?
That's the thing I have trouble with the most. I show and give politeness and respect and help out anyone wherever and whenever I can (within reason), but it's when someone is a brash loudmouth or even does something little and stupid like not hold the door open for me when I'm right behind them. That type of stuff sets me off.
Which actually segues into the final part of my answer. I think a huge, huge part of becoming a better person is not only working on your faults and weaknesses (obviously) but more-so identifying these faults and weaknesses without trying to sugarcoat it for your oft-pouty ass brain.
For instance, I have road rage. Big time. It's gotten a lot better, but sometimes I'll get mad at someone for doing something when it was, in reality, me who did the ultimately incorrect lane change or whatever. So I've identified it and I've been working on it and... well, it's a process. You certainly don't become a better person overnight. You definitely have to consciously work on it on a day-to-day (and often day-by-day) basis.
PS: I'll plug therapy yet again in here. It works frigging
wonders. I know I come off all sunshine and rainbows and daps on here and in the Discord chat most of the time, but I used to be a very angry, pretty shitty person. Therapy at least has really,
really helped me to not only man up and come to grips with some of the poor, oft-criminal shit I've done in the past, but also work on getting past it and getting over it and, ultimately, striving to do much better in the future.
That's all you can really do, honestly.
Any suggestions on how to find my talent or thing I like?
Another good question!
I mean, I think a lot of people kind of gloss over a lot of different things that they truly like and enjoy when thinking about stuff like this. Like, you don't have to be absolutely, unhealthily obsessed with something or someone in order for it to be a hobby.
I'd say make a long list of all the different things you like. List everything -- don't try to group it out or anything. Food, music, outdoor activities, yodeling -- I dunno, just list it all. Even if you're a secret psychopath and just really,
really like Granny Smith Apples during the witching our on... Tuesday nights only. That's super weird and please get off my porch, but write that down, too.
Once you've got everything all listed out and your brain is tapped, go and do something else entirely for a good half hour to an hour. Dishes, vacuum, give your cat some cat nip to giggle at how lifted they get, etc. etc.
After coming back, take a look at that list and circle anything that -- upon reading about it again -- gives you a little roar of fire or desire in your tummy tum tums. After you're done circling those, make that into a list and what you'll have is a pretty great access gate to which kinds of hobbies you're going to enjoy and stick with long term.
As for talents, that's pretty simple. Try everything at least once and keep track and keep notes of everything you do that you seem to be halfway decent at. More importantly, ask your friends or family what they think you're talents are and keep a list of that. Evaluate, figure out which ones are legit and which ones are your Moms just trying to brighten up your Wednesday (thanks Moms) and there you go. There's a pretty respectable and (hopefully) truthful list telling you your top talents.
Do with all that what you will, but if you can definitely try and get a job in the realm of something you love doing -- like hobby-wise -- or something you're really pretty talented at and, thusly, probably love doing. Because... compliments.
Also, don't try to rush the process either. You're going to get better and worse in regards to various things as you get older, just try to keep an eye on it so you're always on top of the game.
