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Admittedly, I find most guys other than myself sexy. Though I do tend towards the leaner frames. Me? I feel my sexiest and most beautiful when I'm dolled out in a hot dress and. Fantastic wig.

I can't say I've ever really felt sexy, but I have to admit sometimes I like grabbing my own ass now that it's developing.

I suppose you could say my better half is Pan. Gender has almost no bearing on whom he is attracted to. Which I find endearing.

Hello everyone, my name is Maxwell...and I'm a homosexual.

*waits for crowd to say "hi Maxwell!"

I identify as 95% homosexual - I'm mainly into guys, however I'm never closed to the possibility that there could be a woman out there that I may find myself attracted to.

I'm also a cisgender male, though I place myself in the middle of the spectrum.  I dress purely male (dressing in "female" attire doesn't appeal to me outside of drag), though my personality is what puts me in the middle of the spectrum since I have traits that some might consider feminine as well as masculine...though I usually don't care enough to try to distinguish between the two.

I suppose I should post here... I originally came here while I was in the Hogwarts region for a Werewolf game, that was about a year ago and my memory is so bad I forget all the details of it, but I remembered this place and noted the LGBT tag which drew me back here. I don't want to make this about me, so probably better if nobody replies to this, but let me tell you why finding a place to be accepted is important to me.

I am bisexual. I think I knew around middle school or early high school, it's somewhat of a grey area because I was considered to be "confused" at first and even I didn't know that bi was valid back then.
Unfortunately I also didn't know about the stigma back then. I was known as a slut at school. I wasn't. And I hate that word now. But that's what they called me. I gave it no thought, it didn't bother me at first. Maybe it should have, maybe I should have denied it earlier? I wasn't very aware back then. I may have been perceived as fitting the "dumb blonde" stereotype despite not having the right hair color for it. It got bad though. That's all I was to them. Then it got worse, I still think that because of who I was, and because of my reputation, that's why a guy I thought I could trust raped me. Skipping some parts I don't especially want to talk about right now; it's because to them bisexual girl = slut, I knew nobody would believe me, and the reputation got worse. I felt alone. I couldn't talk to anyone, even though I needed to. Living in a conservative area that I knew wanted to "fix" me, I couldn't go to the community, and I couldn't go to anyone at school. I was even too afraid to talk to family, because I didn't want them to know what everyone at school thought of me, and they didn't know back then that I'm bisexual. I have a feeling they secretly know but won't force me to talk about it, either way I have nobody around here I can talk to. It hurt so much back then being alone, I even blamed myself, I thought things like maybe if I just chose one way or hid it better or something, this wouldn't have happened to me. So for a long time I denied it. I went far away to college on purpose, where I passed as heterosexual, I didn't fall for any of my roommates so it wasn't too hard. I never talked about bisexuality, rape, or my false reputation as a slut back then. Didn't help me feel better though. It felt fake. Even though I had a fear of men for awhile, and may still have a little of that fear, that didn't change my sexuality.
About 2-3 years ago I started trying to change. Being more open. Trying to heal. Trying to find people I don't have to hide things from.
Perhaps this can be one of those places. We don't have to talk about bisexuality, I think I'll just feel a little better being able to say that I am bi around people who get it, and won't judge me for it, and won't call me a slut or dismiss me as one. I still have a lot of issues but I'm trying to get better and I think finding a place where I can be accepted will help.

I suppose I should post here... I originally came here while I was in the Hogwarts region for a Werewolf game, that was about a year ago and my memory is so bad I forget all the details of it, but I remembered this place and noted the LGBT tag which drew me back here. I don't want to make this about me, so probably better if nobody replies to this, but let me tell you why finding a place to be accepted is important to me.

I am bisexual. I think I knew around middle school or early high school, it's somewhat of a grey area because I was considered to be "confused" at first and even I didn't know that bi was valid back then.
Unfortunately I also didn't know about the stigma back then. I was known as a slut at school. I wasn't. And I hate that word now. But that's what they called me. I gave it no thought, it didn't bother me at first. Maybe it should have, maybe I should have denied it earlier? I wasn't very aware back then. I may have been perceived as fitting the "dumb blonde" stereotype despite not having the right hair color for it. It got bad though. That's all I was to them. Then it got worse, I still think that because of who I was, and because of my reputation, that's why a guy I thought I could trust raped me. Skipping some parts I don't especially want to talk about right now; it's because to them bisexual girl = slut, I knew nobody would believe me, and the reputation got worse. I felt alone. I couldn't talk to anyone, even though I needed to. Living in a conservative area that I knew wanted to "fix" me, I couldn't go to the community, and I couldn't go to anyone at school. I was even too afraid to talk to family, because I didn't want them to know what everyone at school thought of me, and they didn't know back then that I'm bisexual. I have a feeling they secretly know but won't force me to talk about it, either way I have nobody around here I can talk to. It hurt so much back then being alone, I even blamed myself, I thought things like maybe if I just chose one way or hid it better or something, this wouldn't have happened to me. So for a long time I denied it. I went far away to college on purpose, where I passed as heterosexual, I didn't fall for any of my roommates so it wasn't too hard. I never talked about bisexuality, rape, or my false reputation as a slut back then. Didn't help me feel better though. It felt fake. Even though I had a fear of men for awhile, and may still have a little of that fear, that didn't change my sexuality.
About 2-3 years ago I started trying to change. Being more open. Trying to heal. Trying to find people I don't have to hide things from.
Perhaps this can be one of those places. We don't have to talk about bisexuality, I think I'll just feel a little better being able to say that I am bi around people who get it, and won't judge me for it, and won't call me a slut or dismiss me as one. I still have a lot of issues but I'm trying to get better and I think finding a place where I can be accepted will help.

Thank you for sharing your story with us. It's tough exploring who you are, especially when you don't have any support to rely on. I'm sorry that you had such a horrible experience while you were figuring out who you were, but I hope that being a part of our community can help.

I suppose the most accurate label for me (I loathe labels) would be a bisexual mostly hetro-romantic male metrosexual bipolar misanthrope with somewhat sociopathic tendencies. Like I said, I hate labels.

My bother and one of my sisters are also gay/lesbian. (3 out of 4!) Only my oldest sister is straight. She says she is the black sheep. And my dad is a reformed-presbiterian church minister. Ha!

I suppose the most accurate label for me (I loathe labels) would be a bisexual mostly hetro-romantic male metrosexual bipolar misanthrope with somewhat sociopathic tendencies. Like I said, I hate labels.

To be honest the only things I understood out of that was bisexual and Sociopathic tendencies because same. Sociopathic tendencies can be me a good chunk of the time.

Should I be concerned about the sociopathic part?

Should I be concerned about the sociopathic part?

Nah it's fine most of them come out to play when I'm too tired to pretend.

Nah it's fine most of them come out to play when I'm too tired to pretend.

So like, if we fall in love and get married then I should be concerned.

I suppose the most accurate label for me (I loathe labels) would be a bisexual mostly hetro-romantic male metrosexual bipolar misanthrope with somewhat sociopathic tendencies. Like I said, I hate labels.

To be honest the only things I understood out of that was bisexual and Sociopathic tendencies because same. Sociopathic tendencies can be me a good chunk of the time.

So you didn't understand male?

I suppose the most accurate label for me (I loathe labels) would be a bisexual mostly hetro-romantic male metrosexual bipolar misanthrope with somewhat sociopathic tendencies. Like I said, I hate labels.

To be honest the only things I understood out of that was bisexual and Sociopathic tendencies because same. Sociopathic tendencies can be me a good chunk of the time.

So you didn't understand male?

What is this archaic term you use? This isn't the nineteen tens!

But seriously though I saw a bunch of big words and did not compute.

I'm a straight ass dude.

Same

Same

Though I have on some occasions wondered if I'm aromantic.

I suppose the most accurate label for me (I loathe labels) would be a bisexual mostly hetro-romantic male metrosexual bipolar misanthrope with somewhat sociopathic tendencies. Like I said, I hate labels.

To be honest the only things I understood out of that was bisexual and Sociopathic tendencies because same. Sociopathic tendencies can be me a good chunk of the time.

So you didn't understand male?

What is this archaic term you use? This isn't the nineteen tens!

But seriously though I saw a bunch of big words and did not compute.

Really? Most of them are fairly common and/or self-explanatory...

Heteroromatic = romantically straight
Metrosexual = young, urban, often liberal, fashionable male (basically a stereotypically "gay" dude)
Bipolar = a mental disorder alternating between depression and mania
Misanthrope = hates people