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That's the problem with the binary 'like/don't like' dynamic of, er, liking and just not liking something, and weirdly this is one of the few social media issues that I feel like Facebook made strides towards addressing - although even there it still suffers from the issue of 'like' being the default response.
Often when people like something negative, they're not saying 'hah sucks to be you I'm glad bad things happened' (I mean, that seems like straight up sociopathy), but rather they're saying 'I can empathize with this and am signalling that I have read and acknowledged this in a relatively low-effort fashion, either because I don't have time to go into greater detail, I worry that this is just a venting situation and any attempt to engage may make the problem worse, or I am genuinely just very, very lazy' (the latter is...well, you'll know those kinds of people).

That's the problem with the binary 'like/don't like' dynamic of, er, liking and just not liking something, and weirdly this is one of the few social media issues that I feel like Facebook made strides towards addressing - although even there it still suffers from the issue of 'like' being the default response.
Often when people like something negative, they're not saying 'hah sucks to be you I'm glad bad things happened' (I mean, that seems like straight up sociopathy), but rather they're saying 'I can empathize with this and am signalling that I have read and acknowledged this in a relatively low-effort fashion, either because I don't have time to go into greater detail, I worry that this is just a venting situation and any attempt to engage may make the problem worse, or I am genuinely just very, very lazy' (the latter is...well, you'll know those kinds of people).

I suppose you're right, it's just easy to take things the wrong way when something has you down.

It may possibly be that they understand how you feel, rather than liking that you feel that way.

I'm not sure how to feel about people apparently liking that I feel ignored and unwanted. =/

People have had this same reaction on reddit when they post comments or threads of their bad experiences that get a lot of karma. We're not "liking" what you're going through. It's more of an acknowledgement or an attempt at sympathy of what you're going through (At least that's my intent) since that's the most we can really do for a total stranger on the internet. You're a pretty cool guy, I would never be "happy" that you're feeling ignored or unwanted, and if it came off that way I sincerely apologize.

People have had this same reaction on reddit when they post comments or threads of their bad experiences that get a lot of karma. We're not "liking" what you're going through. It's more of an acknowledgement or an attempt at sympathy of what you're going through (At least that's my intent) since that's the most we can really do for a total stranger on the internet. You're a pretty cool guy, I would never be "happy" that you're feeling ignored or unwanted, and if it came off that way I sincerely apologize.

I was probably being silly anyways...you know how it is when you're already down, you take things the wrong way. For what it's worth, I don't really interact with Reddit, and I barely even use Facebook, so I don't do much liking or know how most people use beyond the obvious use of liking what they said. I'm sorry for letting myself take it the wrong way. I should know better.

I'm not sure how to feel about people apparently liking that I feel ignored and unwanted. =/

If I remember correctly, (Is that a problem that I forgot why I liked a post? ) my like was solidarity with the most people not wanting to talk to me idea while also referring to the sympathy for Laurentus after seeing his mom cry.  I probably wouldn't have had a good response so I went with a like instead.

If I remember correctly, (Is that a problem that I forgot why I liked a post? ) my like was solidarity with the most people not wanting to talk to me idea while also referring to the sympathy for Laurentus after seeing his mom cry.  I probably wouldn't have had a good response so I went with a like instead.

I don't know, that was a good response.

I recently bought Return Of The Obra Dinn. Damn if it isn't one of the best games of the year in my view.

Watched a great episode of Little House on the Prairie, where an ex-con (played by Johnny Cash) was looking to swindle the town of donations meant for another struggling town until the goodness of the people brought about a change of heart at the end. I think there's a good message to it that's true, too. Attitudes spread among people...goodness will inspire goodness in others, while meanness will encourage meanness.

I think Wintreath is a good modern, virtual stand-in for Walnut Grove, in that our community is generous and kind and I think has inspired others to be kinder, better people. What makes me feel good about Wintreath is that I think it has had a positive impact on so many of the people that have been in it, and I think that's more important than being larger, prominent, or whatever other measure most people would use for success. I truly think we're the most impactful community on NS.

Hey, we're the featured region on NationStates today!

Go Wintreath!

Since being put on my new medication I am two months seizure-free for the first time in three years! And on such a low dosage too. I'm feeling pretty damn hopeful. ^_^

Since being put on my new medication I am two months seizure-free for the first time in three years! And on such a low dosage too. I'm feeling pretty damn hopeful. ^_^

That sounds really nice.  I hope it keeps working out well for you.

I have to do my tax forms, but dear God, I have an allergic reaction to mundane and official looking paperwork. Someone help.

So 2 of the 4 sides of the quad I live in have completely flooded because a water main burst in the top floor or something. Couple hundred students' shit is gonna be ruined, and my wife (the residence director) is gonna have lots of sleepless nights now trying to figure out what to do with the students and building. Our apartment is one in of the dry sides, though. Not sure if I'm unlucky or lucky.