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It's one of the best words I have. It's so versatile.

Was talking to one of my str8 friends, and asked him about me being gay and if I stood out as obviously gay or if I hid it well/ acted str8...

... he laughed...

In all seriousness he said it was obvious. When asked y, he said I look and sound gay. Like, wtf?

He explained that I have a gay voice (i do have a lilt) and I dressed gay. Basically he said all of clothes were nice and in good condition and everything accessorized and was fashionable for my particular styles, where as str8 guys just throw on whatever. And that no matter what, I always looked good.

Have any of u ever been told shit similar, or experienced that or something similar? I wonder if there's a touch of truth there? Like if there's this secret gay code or some shit that alot of us just dress the way we do to get guys to notice us.

I've never been told that, lol.

Then again, I don't pay particular attention to my clothing or fashion. I tend to buy whatever I like that fits at places like Wal-Mart, and usually do the bare minimum to be presentable. It's just not something I care much about really, though maybe I'd be hotter if I did.

I suppose some gay people can have a "gay" voice...mine tends to sound feminine so it can come off that way, but that's hardly the case for everyone that's gay or bi. I worry that's one of those things that's probably more of a stereotype than reality.

I mean, it's all based on stereotypes. And those are really rooted in the queer eye for the str8 guy kinda vibe. Think back on a lot of the gay guys on tv and such. There's a higher pitch, maybe a lilt, perhaps a lisp. They're always dressed to the 9's. I mean, I'm a walking stereotype a lot of the time these days. But back in my goth days I always used to get, "Wow. You don't seem gay at all!"

A lot of that attitude depends on people's exposure to actual queer folx.

To be sure! Its really kind of amazing to me that in this day and age, being gay is still a shock to some people. And alot of folks are truly entrenched in their ideas that gay people always look, act, sound etc in very specific stereotypical ways.

That's because most exposure to queer folx happens in the media for a lot of people. And, again, a lot of those portrayals have relied on stereotypes to get across the fact that a character is queer.

So does anyone have any plans to celebrate PRIDE month? It's doubtful we'll be able to do the festivals and celebrations that we normally do so I was wondering if anyone has any plans for personal observations or celebrations.

I'll hopefully be in Hawaii by the time of Pride, so I'm hoping I get to see my first celebration of it while I'm down there.

You've never been to a PRIDE event before?