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There definitely has to be steps taken, however I do think investigations have to make serious headway before the person accused is treated as a villain if they're legitimately wrongly accused for the other's personal gain.

But I don't agree with the guilty until proven innocent approach people take when it comes to sexual harassment claims.  Because as mentioned, if it's proven that the accused didn't commit the act...it doesn't matter.  They've been accused, and their life from that point is ruined since they'll be seen as a sexual predator even if they were proven innocent (because clearly the justice system didn't look hard enough or gave them a pass since guys stick together).  Granted, I do agree that it's not always that black and white since some systems are corrupt and favor the actual predators...but again.

It's just not the easiest topic.  In ways it works, in others it doesn't.  In some areas there may be a better solution, but overall there will never be the perfect one.

It's one of those movements I support because it encourages people to speak up about sexual harassment and rape.

However, I do agree that it has the potential to go way too far and have people cry foul for their own advantage...rather than it be because it actually happened.

That being said, I'm no less weary than I was before to be around women.  But that's mainly because if a woman cried foul because she wanted people to believe I raped her, she'd probably get laughed out of the room since I wouldn't touch the female body with a 10 foot pole unless it was fully clothed and for a short friendly hug.

I'm sorry, that sounds a bit like 'since it does not effect me, I do not care'. That may not be what you intended but it does come off like that just a bit. I'm sure that's not how you intended it but it can be viewed that way.

I mean, since the first part was literally "It's one of those movements I support because it encourages people to speak up about sexual harassment and rape" obviously I do care.

I'm just saying it doesn't change anything for me personally, since I've never had issue around women...being as I don't even see them on that level of attraction, and I've yet to have one take anything I even say the wrong way since most women I meet know that I'm pretty gay.

What I meant in my post is that if a woman tried to call foul on me, someone who has zero interest sexually in women and who even his coworkers, managers, and even higher ups knows is definitely gay...it'd be pretty obvious they wouldn't get very far with that accusation.

If it was a guy that cried foul, that would obviously be s different story.  However, since I distance myself from really hitting on guys at work, let alone don't even throw out a lot of my sassy self except when it's lined with friendly sarcasm, it's something I personally don't see myself having to worry about.

But don't get me wrong: I do care about other people's experiences and as I said, I do encourage a movement that lets them speak up.  If one of my female or even male coworkers was being sexually harassed or had a traumatic sexual experience without their consent, you'd be damn right in believing that I'd want them to speak up about it.  Real victims shouldn't have to be silent about what happened to them.

But I do also see the harmful flipside that a movement like this can perpetuate, especially in a country that is being known for being incredibly ultra sensitive about even the smallest things in the recent years.  All it takes is the wrong people to use the movement as a personal vendetta against someone that scorned their advances or they just don't like...and the movement becomes tainted despite its good intentions for existing.