Yes, I completely agree with everything you said Wintermoot , no argument from me, but I'll try and explain what I was meaning in a big ramble that probably won't make sense...
Imagine you are stuck in a economic dead end, you are poor and every year you and your families income is going down and down you've lost all hope and every year you see the same type of people running for office making the same promises and getting elected and there seems to be no point, no hope, then a candidate comes a long and promises you and people like you the world, he promises everything, and the same people you've come to despise, hate him... Who are you going to vote for... that candidate or one that represents everything you've come to despise about your political system.
All I am saying don't deride and insult the people that voted for Trump, a lot of them are bigots yes, but also a lot of them are just trying to do what they think is best for them (even though they are most probably wrong). And don't blame them or Trump for the outdated and broken system that put him in that position... feel free to blame him for his shitty policies and opinions, but the system that lets him exist isn't his or anyone alive today's fault.
People like me and you feel let down, right? Well I am fairly certain the people that voted for Trump would be saying the same things if Clinton won, many of them aren't hateful bigots they feel persecuted and under-represented as we do; they have as little control over their situation as we do, so if someone voted the way you don't like then ask them why, have a reasonable discussion with them, don't just hand-wave them and brush them aside like some kind of nuisance
This election was incredibly close about 0.1% difference between the overall votes; calling half your country bigots and breaking friendships and with them like I've seen a lot of on Facebook and Twitter isn't going to get people anywhere, it's only going to make the divide larger, make tensions higher, and make both sides less understood.
If we want people to stop hating each other we must lead by example, if we want people to come together and understand other people's situations then we must lead by example. Putting them down is only going to make their belief that they made the right decision stronger.
As an LGBTQ person who has dealt with hate, persecution and suicide I do know what it's like and I am scared for my friends in the states, much like after the British EU exit vote there will be an uptick in bigotry and intolerance towards people like us... but the way we respond to that is not with violence, threats and derision; we do what we want done to us, we will be open, tolerant, understanding and try to educate people that we are not the problem they think we are.
I believe Trump will go down in history as one of the worst if not THE worst president in the history of your country, but that doesn't mean all hope is lost, that isn't the end of the world, you've got to hamper his stupidity with reason, you've got to counter his ignorance with knowledge, and defend against his intolerance with understanding and empathy...
And ofcourse, OFCOURSE stand up for your rights! If anyone tries to curtail them or remove them; DO NOT let them, stand up and let the world know that the people will not let that happen; that people will not stand idly by. Keep your eyes on the ball not the other players, and never give up the moral high-ground... you've got to get through this time, it will be hard, I am worried for a lot of people... that's why I ask you to stay strong, there can be light at the end of the tunnel, you, me, we've all just got to try out best to get there in once piece; and we won't be able to do that if we turn potential allies against us.
In the video I linked, Philip Defranco shows a clip from the Republican National Convention, a massive hall full of republicans and Trump supporters, and what did they do when Trump said he was going to protect LGBTQ people... they cheered... and they didn't just cheer everything he said through-out the night there were boo's and jeers but not for that...
That is how I feel, I wish you all the best of luck in all things.