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So I'm drunk. And that's probably why I'm saying this.

There's a guy from my NS intake. Let's call him Zed. He's bright, funny, attractive. I...feel something for him. I...don't know how to say it. I want him. I want to be with him. More than I've ever wanted anyone before. And I don't know what to do. I'm terrified of telling him because I don't want to lose him. I have no idea what to do.

Aww...that's so cute! You've even rekindled a bit of the old hopeless romantic in this cynic.

You have to tell him...trust me, if you feel that way about him and don't at least explore the possibility of having something with him, you will regret it for a long time. Even if it turns out that he isn't into you, at least you'll know. You may be sad because of it, but it's better than being left to wonder what might've been if you'd only just told him...

Please, god, don't do that while you're drunk.

Serious emotional confessions are better left for when you can think clearly again. Inhibitions are not necessarily a bad part of human existence.

So I'm drunk. And that's probably why I'm saying this.

There's a guy from my NS intake. Let's call him Zed. He's bright, funny, attractive. I...feel something for him. I...don't know how to say it. I want him. I want to be with him. More than I've ever wanted anyone before. And I don't know what to do. I'm terrified of telling him because I don't want to lose him. I have no idea what to do.

Aww...that's so cute! You've even rekindled a bit of the old hopeless romantic in this cynic.

You have to tell him...trust me, if you feel that way about him and don't at least explore the possibility of having something with him, you will regret it for a long time. Even if it turns out that he isn't into you, at least you'll know. You may be sad because of it, but it's better than being left to wonder what might've been if you'd only just told him...

Thing is that I don't know if he swings this way.

Please, god, don't do that while you're drunk.

Serious emotional confessions are better left for when you can think clearly again. Inhibitions are not necessarily a bad part of human existence.

Oh good god I may be buzzing like a Messerschmitt but even I'm not stupid enough for a drunk confessions

Thing is that I don't know if he swings this way.

Well, maybe casually just bring the discussion up and see what he says. I usually find some casual way to mention that I like guys and just see how they respond.

So I'm drunk. And that's probably why I'm saying this.

There's a guy from my NS intake. Let's call him Zed. He's bright, funny, attractive. I...feel something for him. I...don't know how to say it. I want him. I want to be with him. More than I've ever wanted anyone before. And I don't know what to do. I'm terrified of telling him because I don't want to lose him. I have no idea what to do.

Zed?

omg, you mean:

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Definitely tell him how you feel. This kinda thing is never easy. The chance that you'll end up in a relationship that makes you feel happier than you've ever felt or be hurt worse than you've ever been are both present, but believe me when I say that either way it is worth it. I know this from experience. So go for it! ^_^

So, there was this guy that I used to work with years ago. At some point we became friends on Facebook, and about a year ago he told me that he was really bicurious and had had thoughts about me...we talked some, and cybered a few times, but because our lives were such that we could never meet nothing else has happened.

Fast-forward a year, and pretty much he just talks to me when he's horny now, and it's annoying as hell. I know that I'm open about sexual topics and that I particularly enjoy casually fooling around with friends, but if it's at the point that all you talk about is sex and wanting to hook up and shit, then you're no longer really a friend, and at that point it's just annoying and a huge turn-off. If I wanted to be involved with someone who was just after the sex, I'd meet up with some random hook-up off a site, ffs. I'm a person and I want to have bonds and feelings for the people that I've opened myself up to...I'm not a slab of meat to contact when you need to get off. >_>

* Evelynx whistles

Sorry mootles.

It's just kinda sad that most people aren't able to balance a friendship that happens to include sex, and most guys just end up wanting the sex. =/

It's just kinda sad that most people aren't able to balance a friendship that happens to include sex, and most guys just end up wanting the sex. =/

This is why I date women. Although, it's not like the grass is much greener.

So I'm drunk. And that's probably why I'm saying this.

There's a guy from my NS intake. Let's call him Zed. He's bright, funny, attractive. I...feel something for him. I...don't know how to say it. I want him. I want to be with him. More than I've ever wanted anyone before. And I don't know what to do. I'm terrified of telling him because I don't want to lose him. I have no idea what to do.

Aww...that's so cute! You've even rekindled a bit of the old hopeless romantic in this cynic.

You have to tell him...trust me, if you feel that way about him and don't at least explore the possibility of having something with him, you will regret it for a long time. Even if it turns out that he isn't into you, at least you'll know. You may be sad because of it, but it's better than being left to wonder what might've been if you'd only just told him...

Thing is that I don't know if he swings this way.

There are three possibilities:

1) He'll do what you're afraid he'll do.  But you know him well enough...does this sound like what he'd do?  If he likes you well enough and he doesn't swing that way, he won't walk away.  He'll politely let you know, and things can continue where they were.

2) He'll turn out to be attracted to you, and was waiting for you to say something.  Or he didn't think you were like that, and will be relieved to hear you feel that way.

3) You'll decide not to tell him, and you'll spend your days wondering and regretting not knowing what could have been had you decided to tell him.

It's just kinda sad that most people aren't able to balance a friendship that happens to include sex, and most guys just end up wanting the sex. =/

I know people like that, and the more annoying thing is that I'm actually attracted to them in a deeper sense...but they only ever message me or talk to me when they want to get off. -_-  Though I guess that pretty much takes away any attraction I had.

This is why I date women. Although, it's not like the grass is much greener.

That's not really a good reason to just date women, lol...not all guys are like that. I've had some amazing sexual friendships with guys...even straight guys. It's just that I haven't had any lately, and it's starting to frustrate me. Sexual things with someone you feel nothing for is just a bore, a drag, and a turn-off. >_>

I know people like that, and the more annoying thing is that I'm actually attracted to them in a deeper sense...but they only ever message me or talk to me when they want to get off. -_-  Though I guess that pretty much takes away any attraction I had.

Well, I was once attracted to him when we were working together, but I never pursued anything because he said he was straight and I respected that. But back then we would chat about different things for however much time we had, and it was really interesting. I kinda wish it was like that again instead of how it is now. =/

Thing is that I don't know if he swings this way.

Well, maybe casually just bring the discussion up and see what he says. I usually find some casual way to mention that I like guys and just see how they respond.

What do you suggest?