Post #35090
May 18, 2015, 04:06:43 PM
Eh...yes and no. Sure, beauty is in the eye of the beholder: Someone that you may find attractive may not be the same as someone I find attractive, or Wintermoot finds attractive.
But I think a complete attraction is necessary for a good as well as a long relationship.
I don't think you can be truly happy with someone unless you're attracted to them both emotionally and physically.
It's easy to say "looks don't matter", but we're also creatures that fall on primal instinct. We may be able to get away with being with someone we may not think has the best looks so for so long before we long for something different, and that's what can end up leading to cheating.
I mean let's be honest: If you don't dig their body for some reason, how long will it be until that becomes problematic to you? Are you going to make them change their body just to please you? What if they're perfectly happy with the way they look? Then it's something that becomes problematic for them, and things can turn sour.
When you're attracted to someone, it should be just like that: You're attracted to everything about them to where you wouldn't want them to change a thing, because they're essentially perfect to you. If they wish to change themselves, then that's okay to an extent (IE if they decide to work out for their health, etc..) but it's not something you should neither encourage nor discourage as well, but support whatever decision they make (as long as it's nothing extreme), and likewise they do the same for you.
If there's something about them you're not exactly attracted to, then that is going to continue to become a bigger problem as time goes by. So unless you're completely attracted to them, any relationship you try to have is doomed to fail in one way or another.
